7 Reasons I Don’t Want Kids
Hello everyone! So I know this post won’t be for all of you, and I completely understand!
Today people my age (millennials if you will) are having fewer kids than ever. While everyone is going to have different reasons for choosing not to reproduce, many of our basic ideas are similar. Here are my top seven reasons for not wanting children.
The world isn’t a great place right now.
I don’t want to be responsible for bringing a child into the world we currently live in. People are bullies and jerks. There’s people dying from food and water shortages, wars, terrorist attacks, and more all over the planet. Turn on any news channel and you can see my number one reason for not wanting any kids.
I’m broke af.
I was fortunately very lucky to attend college on nearly full financial aid. However, I still have several thousand dollars in loans to look forward to once I graduate. Not to mention car payments, credit card payments that are currently adding up (primarily due to school and the ridiculous price of textbooks), bills, insurance and a plethora of other things I have to pay every month.
A child costs roughly $250,000 to raise from birth until age 18. If you help them with college after that you can go ahead and add on at least another $50,000 for public college and well over $100,000 for a private college. I don’t know about you but I don’t have over $250,000 just laying around to help me provide for a child. If I did I wouldn’t be living how I currently do. I don’t want to have a child if I’m not able to give them a life that they deserve, and in the current financial state of the world that is just not possible for me or many others my age.
Not all women are ‘born to be mothers.’
I do not have a single maternal instinct in my body. Not one. Sometimes I find kids to be a bit endearing. Like the time between when they’re a few months old to when they start talking. Until they begin to cry. I can’t deal with tears. I also can’t deal with sass in a child-appropriate way so when they’re old enough to talk I’m out. When they’re first born they can’t do anything for themselves and that honestly just freaks me out. What do you mean I have to support its head or its neck could break??? That’s just too much pressure for me to handle.
The world is already overpopulated. Why would I want to contribute further to that mess? There are thousands of homeless children and children living in orphanages and adoption centers around the world. If I’m going to be spending that much money towards on a child’s life I would much rather do so for one who is already living. I have considered adoption later in life, but that’s something to think about many years from now.
I want a career. Sorry, not sorry.
I’m spending too much money and putting myself through way too much stress throughout my college years to do well and earn a degree to just get married, have kids, and become a homemaker.
I do know that there are families in which both parents work and it does work out well for them, but one parents ALWAYS works less and has to focus less on their dreams and goals. I don’t want that. I want to be able to focus on what I want to do with my life 100%. You can’t have it all in life, and I’m choosing to have a career.
I also want to live the life I want.
I want to travel the world, see things I’ve only dreamed of, and experience new things. While this is possible with kids, they definitely complicate the situation. I don’t want to have to worry about anyone but myself in life.
Because I don’t want them.
No one needs to try to change my mind, it won’t happen. You don’t need to try to shame me into having children. It’s my life, my body, my choice.
I shouldn’t have to justify my reasons to anyone.